What kinds of things do you get excited about?
(And sneak off to the bathroom to do a high kick.)
What is a time when you got really fired up?
(Like, mouth sealed shut, nostrils flared but enjoying maximum air flow.)
What’s a favorite memory you have?
(When you reminisce you can’t stop smiling like a fool)
Think about your answers to these things. Then think about why.
For example, say your favorite memory was Cousin Deb’s Surprise 40th Birthday.
Is it because you value surprise parties? No!
What is it ABOUT surprise parties that you like?
Do you like being with people, such that quality time is your value? Do you like the surprise part, such that spontaneity is your value? Do you enjoy the food and decorations, such that creation and art is your value? Or do you eagerly await the gift-giving, such that generosity is your value?
Looking at important “what”s in your life, then looking at the “why”s that made them important, will uncover the “who”—who you are and what you value.
But Kristen, why is it important to know your values?
All values are good, why not just go with them all? Or jump around?
Knowing your values not only helps to makes sense of things in your past; it is handy for your present and crucial to your future. Did you hear that? Crucial.
You will face tough decisions and scenarios in which you don’t know what to do. But if you DO know who you are and what you stand for, your first step in these turbulent times will become much more clear.
And it’s not just the big events either. When you incorporate your values into your day to day mundane activities, you will find yourself making more consistent decisions and therefore taking more effective action, and therefore over time, making an impact.
Impact. It makes me think of heroes.
It makes me hear the word impact with a dramatic echo: IMPACTIMPactimpact
It makes think of massive effort.
But the truth is, those who have made an impact didn’t do so because they did EVERYTHING. They did SOME things. But because those some things were powered by the same value, they joined forces and took off. Impacters make an impact because they identified what’s important to them, and then channeled not just their greatest efforts, but also their daily actions, decisions, and habits through that value. They made a big dent by hammering away, one small action at a time with the same value for each swing.
How?
If making an impact sounds like music to your ears, but knowing what your values are feels like knowing the secrets of outer space, my suggestion to you is to get a notebook. Start with the questions above. Dedicate one page to each question. Write the question at the top of each page, and as you think of answers, jot them down. Then on the sides, make notes of what feelings, values, motivations, passions may be behind them. As you think of answers, you’ll think of more questions. (There’s also a plethora of blog posts out there that provide excellent questions. Just google “find your values”). And as you flip through to add answers and questions, you’ll be forced to review your content as it builds. And you will start to see certain words repeating. Patterns emerging. Clues appearing. You will be excavating your values from your life! It’s SCIENCE.
NOTE: You won’t get all the answers in one sitting. Well, you’ll always be collecting answers. But give them time to develop and speak to one another. For example, you might think that babysitting was important to you because you value youth. But then later, when answering a question about, say a particularly proud moment at work, realize later that it was having sense of responsibility. Or empowering others to grow.
Bottom line?
If you take a look back, you can launch forward with purpose and consistency, and leave a mark.
And speaking of surprise parties, here’s someone who LOVES them.
